People often assume that when you really want to do something, you just do it. How often have not you heard the phrase: it is not you cannot, it is that you do not want to. Even my dad says that and for many years I thought this quote was the point in life. But is it really?? 

There are too many things, ideas and dreams you have in life, scenarios you create with your mind over and over again, ideal situations you would love to be in in the future. But there are also the same amount, if not more, reasons for you not be able to pursue what you want. Do not get me wrong. I do not say not to go after your dreams, in fact I do say to do that. However, you should not feel ashamed or less that you are not doing what you want right now. Sometimes you need to think it, to be sure, to plan ahead, get ready and feel mentally in a better position to try it. For so many months (maybe years) I wanted to move abroad and live a different life that I used to do, away from my beloved ones, just me. During this period, I was of course sure that I wanted that but for many reasons I just could not do it at that point. I had a boyfriend I did not want to break up with, I had just found a new job that I really loved, it was not easy to imagine leaving my sister, parents and other family and friends, I did not have the money, I was feeling small... So many people around me used to tell me that I was only finding excuses and I was too afraid to do it. I know they only wanted it to push me harder to do what I kept discussing over and over again but it did not feel that they could understand the time was not right and I was not mentally prepared to make it true. I was feeling even smaller and coward. And it was not true!! 

You and YOU only know when it is the right time to do something, when it feels naturally right to go after your dream, bigger or smaller one. And this is what I did. I did it because I wanted to chasing it at that time and I have made all the preparations I wanted to make by then. No one forced me. I came to Zurich because my boyfriend lives here but I did not came because of him. I came because of me! Even now, when someone asks me to divide the reasons I am here now and I keep on saying that it is 95% because of me and 5% because of him. 

On the other hand, the time is never right. There are truly so many reasons that can keep you back and even if you wait for the storm to pass, then another 10 of them arrive and make the time passing by. Days after days... months after months... years after years... Sometimes you have to just do it! You may say: Ok, let me save some money and then I can come in 2 months. And then a pandemic arrives 😖 

The point here is to find the true reasons inside you that you do what you do and you want what you want. Is it because of you? Is it because of someone else? Or because of a forced situation? Then plan... plan ahead for 1 sec or 1 decade if you need to. It is ok! Just keep in mind that you may not have the luxury of reaching the decade.